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Nancy Jainchill's avatar

Love the example.

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DIAHANN REYES-LANE's avatar

I really want to know what happened with the employee who took off early after they received your friend’s reply. Also, such a good reminder (and great tools) of how not to give our power away to the political provocateurs in charge at the moment. (I may use this for the next time I get mansplained during pickleball and feel provoked).

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Blair Glaser's avatar

Spoiler: She figured it out! And report back if you find a good comeback for the pickleball bros! 💕

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Karen DeBonis's avatar

I love these tools, Blair, especially getting curious about the provocateur’s motive. I'm so curious, I'll be pondering quite a bit in the days ahead. Also, I never thought about the importance of moving one's body to process a reaction. I tend not to do that, but now I will. Thanks for these important insights!

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Blair Glaser's avatar

So glad the Stack was useful, Karen. Moving is key. If you click on the qigong link it leads you to a very short video of Jeffrey Chand who is a master of helping people move their energy through the body. He has a bunch of free videos on you tube and they are terrific. Thanks for chiming in.

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Manisha Shahane's avatar

Timely and HI-ly thoughtful tools and tips. Thank you!

p.s. The post wasn't nearly as long as I had anticipated, but helpful to have set expectations as these days it could be 140 characters to the length of an Atlantic Monthly!

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Sasha Cagen's avatar

I have also felt belittled when another women's empowerment expert called my appearance on CNN with Anderson Cooper "cute" and hung on to that for years :) Enjoyed reading that detail of your piece here!

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Blair Glaser's avatar

It’s the most cruel harmless word of them all isn’t it? It took me a long time before I realized what the intent was, and where in the speaker it was coming from. But that information did help me unhook from the sting. Thanks for chiming in here.

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